Reason Why I Have ‘Trust’ Issues- Nauman Ali Khan

The recent hurdle of events has pushed 2 different incidents to the surface. One had been discussed earlier in the blog while the second one is being discussed today. This is not going to be ‘how people reacted’ to the entire ‘Ustaad’ NAK event but what I personally experienced through it, as a person.

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Ustaad Nauman Ali Khan- CEO and Lead instructor Bayyinah

The incident didn’t come out to be a shock to me. Not that I was expecting something similar from a religious celebrity (would consider him one, based on his fan following) but because I hardly tend to trust anyone. There’s no hard and fast rule, as to WHY I end up doing that. But, let’s just say I have had enough of a share to make it a general practice. More common belief could be that I don’t trust myself of being able to behave in a fixed manner and thus, I don’t commit to a single opinion about the rest.

 

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Bayyinah.tv one of the more means of his religious speeches

To get to know of a ‘religious’ celebrity practicing ‘girl-hoping’ might not be something new and it definitely wasn’t unexpected. His bayans (a couple that I heard while aimlessly refreshing my social feed), his way of expressing religion was more of like a story-teller narrating a fairytale rather than trying to explain why and how certain things work in Islam. Religion for me is a path to be followed and not a story to be memorized and getting entertained by. Nonetheless, new age, new ways!

 

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This whole scenario keeps on building the ‘I have trust issues’ case study. This also happens when you get to meet a lot of people and tend to know a lot of weird things about them. Most often you can confront them and the rest you have enough ‘red-handed’ proofs to accept without question. It’s a small, small world and people actually talk so chances are people really know a lot about what you’re hiding. This might be a controversy, someone trying to fabricate this all. But why would anyone use this particular medium of women, affairs, or money? Why couldn’t it be something else? I’m no one to give my 2¢s on it but that one should never rely on anyone to the extent that one should take them to be spiritually correct, all the time. Humans are but animals molded and shaped out of elements with the power to make mistakes and learn from them. As part of this world, be able to know the lies that can be fabricated in the finest of gold sheets.

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P.S: I have nothing to do with NAK incident nor do I have the energy to make it a topic of debate. This incident just brought light to something that I personally go through, every day.

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Coke Studio stuck between the Love & Hate Brigade

What’s music to you? For me, it’s something that I feed on when I’m happy, sad, excited or just bored. My music often defines what and how I think and take my decisions. It’s actually quite a lot for me and definitely for many. Coke Studio had been the biggest hope since a decade that brought back classics the younger generation never knew existed, revamped the entire South Asian music scene with some of the biggest fans resting in India.
Surprising enough, with a mega opening act the 10th season seems to have gotten stuck on an island surrounded by the super energetic waves of both positive and negative criticism. There’s more of a battle taking place across social media with KOLs, music enthusiasts and people who simply cannot resist the power of Coke Studio taking their opinions to another level!

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Why is that there’s so much disparity for this season? Starting off from the tales of Nepotism towards selecting singers that weren’t found too apt for the covers and, aahh…yes! Covers, ‘why does CS10 believe in opting for covers rather than producing originals’. There are too many tales to tally and I on the other hand just have a very basic opinion to not let the music die from the Pakistani industry once again. We have taken almost a decade to pick ourselves back again where the singles are making waves across. There’s always the good, the bad and even the ugliest (hear Sayoone) but there’s always a beauty to the difference of opinion that helps music aficionados to work harder and produce, richer!
All I’m afraid of is the time when Bilal and Faisal take off from CokeStudio with a broken heart like Rohail Hayatt 4 years ago. He said that he wasn’t but it was evident, he lost hope from the people for whom he created wonders for 6 whole years. Creations like ‘Alif Allah, Aik Alif, Bibi Sanam, Yaar Dadi, KirKir, Pyaar Naal, Aj Latha Naeeo, Jal Pari, Laila O Laila, Ishq Kinara where these are just a few that came from that 6-year long journey. For the hate, he received even from the Gems of the industry.

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Pakistan, criticise where it’s meant to be, say it out loud, but say it sanely. Your opinions make the judgment of many who rely on foreign opinions to try things out. Maybe you did take away the chance of someone actually enjoying a song that you didn’t like.

 

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You might know your music the way you hear it but you might not know the struggle behind its creation. You might say what sounds right to you, but you may be different than what the producers thought about their production!

Let music survive in Pakistan with your constructive criticism.

Local Facebook Food Groups or Biased Lobbies?

The power of Facebook groups is the same as the kid in the community, who has the ownership of the bat and the ball. Who gets to decide which kid gets to play and which doesn’t; who shall get to bat even after declared an out because he’s good friends with them. My most memorable experience with Facebook group admins started when I got blocked from a very famous Buy & Sell group that has now turned into a proper brand. Nevermind, the story’s the same throughout most prominent groups where the creators tend to not have any mercy towards their members and often show a very demeaning attitude towards the ones who tend to not fall in accordance with their set rules of not just the group but the society as well.

This recent incident where the creator of a very famous food group, SWOT’s (Guide to Karachi Resturants, Cafes, Dhabas, Khokas and Take-outs) commented on a genuine complaint made against a high-end eatery, posted by a member and pointed out that she couldn’t understand the rant since it wasn’t written according to her set standard of ‘English’.

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Calling out to the already distressed client that one cannot understand the complaint just because it had been composed bi-lingually? Which century are we living in? The era of the British. Pfft! The member quite innocently goes on to clear her point ahead, regarding the quality of service she had experienced at the eatery, etc. The argument further enfolded into a loyal vs. virgin customer. We all may agree to it, customer service is never dependent on the number of times you have visited an eatery! It is something that either wins or loses you a customer. The creator of SWOT later very beautifully responded to all the hate and critique received in various groups and forums that hit directly towards her disrespectful attitude.

19665530_480741708940274_3649155634667883328_n.jpgThe reply speaks for itself and needs no further explanation for ‘there are plenty of groups where the likes of you are welcome’, who really determines the ‘like’? There might be many, anxiously waiting outside to get into the group, sad enough, they remain unaware of the way this and many other groups are maintained with the sole monarchical mentality. Similar, biased incidents have happened in the past when a group of bloggers (swoggers) on the SWOT panel; a) refused to attend an event Pakistan Ka Dastakhuwan  (#PKDKhi) because the management had to switch the location from Clifton to Gulshan e Iqbal and b) spent the rest of the time bashing against the entire event without even having to attend it. Luckily, they were pretty much roasted online for their unnecessary attitude and reactions.

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There’s always respect for creators, admins and moderators for having the energy and temperament to get along with the daily nonsense that keeps on taking place within the group. But it never really gives them the power to demean, disrespect or dishonour a person on the basis of how they draft their review, rant, complain or query. These groups provide a greater avenue for foodies, critiques and silent readers who secretly build their opinion based on the reviews shared online.

How would you react if provoked for having used a skill that hadn’t been mastered by many around you?

The Twisted Tale of Viral Social Media Debate

It doesn’t take much for an innocent post to turn into an online dilemma, a heated topic and viral content later on that ends up on almost all the local media publishing pages. So what is it that makes a post questionable? What are some of the most debated, and #hottopics that may help you get some easy overnight fame on a Facebook group, maybe.. Consider the example below that shows how something completely ‘I would call it’ stupid, catches the attention of the ‘group-nazis’ and then the ripple keeps on getting wider and deeper.

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A supposedly ‘expert’ marketer found it highly ‘stupid’ and somewhat ‘offensive’ (on pure marketing merit) to have received a promotional SMS for a sanitary napkins campaign. What happens next? Well, the gentleman puts up a screenshot with a caption that just reads, ‘what the heck?’. Now the term WTH is pretty broad when it comes to trying to decipher the emotions enclosed. This is where it got attention from all the different angles available in any mixed gender, intellectual group!

a. The actually confused audience asking for clarification because duh, they can’t see the obvious

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b. The most common but the most important ‘feminist’ perspective

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c. A pinch of something sane that apparently fails to grab much attention

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d. The ‘popcorn’ worthy pro vs. anti-feminism, cat fight

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e. Then there are the ones who have a very good time adding their irrelevant 2 cents to the thread
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f. Some ‘on-point’ sarcasm or trolling, as we call it.

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g. And last but not the least trying to save your sinking ship with an irrelevant Federal Public Notice!

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This is just one, petty example of how something very naive grabs the attention of the masses just because people mostly refer to the thread underneath while completely ignoring the question, topic, idea, referred to, with the post. Nazis, feminists, realists, haters, trolls have an equal share towards the agenda. Where, media publishing agencies are always bloodthirsty about content that creates more controversy than there already was, threads like these with added screenshots spread across different WhatsApp and social media groups; ladies and gentlemen, give you a viral ‘useless’ story!