The ever famous meme claims that infinite dreams of desi-children have been crushed under the hammer of ‘Loug Kia Kaheyngay (what will people say). Lesser do parents know, whatever your child ends up doing, you can never save them from the unconditional trolling and attention of the haters. Be it phopho, phopho ki beti/beta, their EX, or a close friend.
But what exactly is this ‘Loug Kia Kaheyngay’ phenomenon? It is a normal social practice that moves within the lower to upper middle-classs households of the South Asian society where parents let down their children from living a healthy and free life with the aim to do something and achieve a place in life where they feel comfortable about themselves and attain a sense of pride. But what happens in reality, is that the parents pressurize their kids not to move forward any further in their desire to pursue their dreams since it is not according to the ‘prescribed’ model of the society. Let’s quickly evaluate a very recent incident with the perspective of ‘Loug Kia Khayengay Phenomenon’ and see how well we can understand it. Famous drama and film actress Mahira Khan who shot to fame with her drama Humsafar, even won hearts across border with thousands of Indians all over her performance in Raees. Nonetheless, Mahira had been our Queen since years now, actresses, her fans, male colleagues all go over, praising her for who she is and how she appears so flawlessly on-screen. Her recent paparazzi incident has bombarded the internet overnight, showing Mahira having a smoke break with famous Indian actor Ranbir Kapoor. Why not quickly list down the ‘haw haye’ factors in the image attached below:
a) Wearing a short skirt
b) Backless and deep neck
c) She is freaking smoking! (that just broke the ‘haw-haye’ scale on the internet)
Debating over the double standard mentality of the society twitteratis, and social media nazis threw hate all around, which included hate of all degree.
Majority of the hate spewed online is indescribable and is better not be shared to further add dirt to one’s hands. This is what ‘Loug Kia Kaheyngay’ looks like. These snippets define how the society, the ‘LOUG’ surrounding the families make sure that you don’t end up living a life that pleases you! This phenomenon lets you, me and every other person down each time we stand up to something for ourselves.
Mahira Khan is at a place where the hate does affect her, but at this degree where she is, she had personally shattered all the ropes that tie her down. She undoubtedly received never-ending support from the fans, friends from the fraternity, and wellwishers from India that stood up to the misogynist and double-standard society putting down women from doing what they feel like doing. The fact being that majority of the hate received came directly by women who hated her for bringing shame upon herself. For doing what? A smoke? Should they be getting the hate, as well?