Reason Why I Have ‘Trust’ Issues- Nauman Ali Khan

The recent hurdle of events has pushed 2 different incidents to the surface. One had been discussed earlier in the blog while the second one is being discussed today. This is not going to be ‘how people reacted’ to the entire ‘Ustaad’ NAK event but what I personally experienced through it, as a person.

Related image
Ustaad Nauman Ali Khan- CEO and Lead instructor Bayyinah

The incident didn’t come out to be a shock to me. Not that I was expecting something similar from a religious celebrity (would consider him one, based on his fan following) but because I hardly tend to trust anyone. There’s no hard and fast rule, as to WHY I end up doing that. But, let’s just say I have had enough of a share to make it a general practice. More common belief could be that I don’t trust myself of being able to behave in a fixed manner and thus, I don’t commit to a single opinion about the rest.

 

Image result for ustaad nak
Bayyinah.tv one of the more means of his religious speeches

To get to know of a ‘religious’ celebrity practicing ‘girl-hoping’ might not be something new and it definitely wasn’t unexpected. His bayans (a couple that I heard while aimlessly refreshing my social feed), his way of expressing religion was more of like a story-teller narrating a fairytale rather than trying to explain why and how certain things work in Islam. Religion for me is a path to be followed and not a story to be memorized and getting entertained by. Nonetheless, new age, new ways!

 

Image result for nouman ali khan screenshots
This whole scenario keeps on building the ‘I have trust issues’ case study. This also happens when you get to meet a lot of people and tend to know a lot of weird things about them. Most often you can confront them and the rest you have enough ‘red-handed’ proofs to accept without question. It’s a small, small world and people actually talk so chances are people really know a lot about what you’re hiding. This might be a controversy, someone trying to fabricate this all. But why would anyone use this particular medium of women, affairs, or money? Why couldn’t it be something else? I’m no one to give my 2¢s on it but that one should never rely on anyone to the extent that one should take them to be spiritually correct, all the time. Humans are but animals molded and shaped out of elements with the power to make mistakes and learn from them. As part of this world, be able to know the lies that can be fabricated in the finest of gold sheets.

Image result for trust issues meme

P.S: I have nothing to do with NAK incident nor do I have the energy to make it a topic of debate. This incident just brought light to something that I personally go through, every day.

Advertisements

Mahira Khan just experienced a ‘Loug Kia Kaheyngay’ Moment

The ever famous meme claims that infinite dreams of desi-children have been crushed under the hammer of ‘Loug Kia Kaheyngay (what will people say). Lesser do parents know, whatever your child ends up doing, you can never save them from the unconditional trolling and attention of the haters. Be it phopho, phopho ki beti/beta, their EX, or a close friend.

Image result for log kya kahenge meme

But what exactly is this ‘Loug Kia Kaheyngay’ phenomenon? It is a normal social practice that moves within the lower to upper middle-classs households of the South Asian society where parents let down their children from living a healthy and free life with the aim to do something and achieve a place in life where they feel comfortable about themselves and attain a sense of pride. But what happens in reality, is that the parents pressurize their kids not to move forward any further in their desire to pursue their dreams since it is not according to the ‘prescribed’ model of the society. Let’s quickly evaluate a very recent incident with the perspective of ‘Loug Kia Khayengay Phenomenon’ and see how well we can understand it. Famous drama and film actress Mahira Khan who shot to fame with her drama Humsafar, even won hearts across border with thousands of Indians all over her performance in Raees. Nonetheless, Mahira had been our Queen since years now, actresses, her fans, male colleagues all go over, praising her for who she is and how she appears so flawlessly on-screen. Her recent paparazzi incident has bombarded the internet overnight, showing Mahira having a smoke break with famous Indian actor Ranbir Kapoor. Why not quickly list down the ‘haw haye’ factors in the image attached below:
Image result for mahira khan ranbir

a) Wearing a short skirt
b) Backless and deep neck
c) She is freaking smoking! (that just broke the ‘haw-haye’ scale on the internet)

Debating over the double standard mentality of the society twitteratis, and social media nazis threw hate all around, which included hate of all degree.

mahira1mahira2mahira3mhahir3

Majority of the hate spewed online is indescribable and is better not be shared to further add dirt to one’s hands. This is what ‘Loug Kia Kaheyngay’ looks like. These snippets define how the society, the ‘LOUG’ surrounding the families make sure that you don’t end up living a life that pleases you! This phenomenon lets you, me and every other person down each time we stand up to something for ourselves.

Mahira Khan is at a place where the hate does affect her, but at this degree where she is, she had personally shattered all the ropes that tie her down. She undoubtedly received never-ending support from the fans, friends from the fraternity, and wellwishers from India that stood up to the misogynist and double-standard society putting down women from doing what they feel like doing. The fact being that majority of the hate received came directly by women who hated her for bringing shame upon herself. For doing what? A smoke? Should they be getting the hate, as well?

Image may contain: 2 people, text

 

Experiencing Azaadi Like Never Before

Having spent the majority of my life abroad, including the golden years of childhood and teenage, there weren’t a lot of opportunities to experience the spirit of Independence in the true Pakistani flavour. Though, how it was being celebrated back in the embassy and at the school included much more patriotism than what we usually witness here right at the clock striking 00:00.

This year, independence was more than just independence. Pakistan celebrated the fresh air of freedom for 70th consecutive year and we are no less thankful to Allah for having given us a land of our own to cherish and protect! Dolmen Mall Tariq Road, part of the Dolmen Group, the leaders who brought some of the amazing malls to Karachi organized 70th Independence Celebration on the eve of 13th August that took the celebrations past midnight and the public just went crazy with indoor fireworks, confetti and a special concert by the famous ‘Tu Phir Aoo’ fame,  Mustafa Zahid.

The shared montage pretty much sums up the entire experience with Dolmen Mall Tariq Road hosting a cheerful crowd that flooded the floors and cheered at the top of their lungs, till the last minute. It was a pleasure to have been invited by DMTR to cover the event and to get a chance to meet the wonderful soul that he is, Mustafa. Got a cute RT from him over our short fan moment!

123.PNG

Local Facebook Food Groups or Biased Lobbies?

The power of Facebook groups is the same as the kid in the community, who has the ownership of the bat and the ball. Who gets to decide which kid gets to play and which doesn’t; who shall get to bat even after declared an out because he’s good friends with them. My most memorable experience with Facebook group admins started when I got blocked from a very famous Buy & Sell group that has now turned into a proper brand. Nevermind, the story’s the same throughout most prominent groups where the creators tend to not have any mercy towards their members and often show a very demeaning attitude towards the ones who tend to not fall in accordance with their set rules of not just the group but the society as well.

This recent incident where the creator of a very famous food group, SWOT’s (Guide to Karachi Resturants, Cafes, Dhabas, Khokas and Take-outs) commented on a genuine complaint made against a high-end eatery, posted by a member and pointed out that she couldn’t understand the rant since it wasn’t written according to her set standard of ‘English’.

19601168_10210032320871675_2158493540760838058_n

Calling out to the already distressed client that one cannot understand the complaint just because it had been composed bi-lingually? Which century are we living in? The era of the British. Pfft! The member quite innocently goes on to clear her point ahead, regarding the quality of service she had experienced at the eatery, etc. The argument further enfolded into a loyal vs. virgin customer. We all may agree to it, customer service is never dependent on the number of times you have visited an eatery! It is something that either wins or loses you a customer. The creator of SWOT later very beautifully responded to all the hate and critique received in various groups and forums that hit directly towards her disrespectful attitude.

19665530_480741708940274_3649155634667883328_n.jpgThe reply speaks for itself and needs no further explanation for ‘there are plenty of groups where the likes of you are welcome’, who really determines the ‘like’? There might be many, anxiously waiting outside to get into the group, sad enough, they remain unaware of the way this and many other groups are maintained with the sole monarchical mentality. Similar, biased incidents have happened in the past when a group of bloggers (swoggers) on the SWOT panel; a) refused to attend an event Pakistan Ka Dastakhuwan  (#PKDKhi) because the management had to switch the location from Clifton to Gulshan e Iqbal and b) spent the rest of the time bashing against the entire event without even having to attend it. Luckily, they were pretty much roasted online for their unnecessary attitude and reactions.

2

1

There’s always respect for creators, admins and moderators for having the energy and temperament to get along with the daily nonsense that keeps on taking place within the group. But it never really gives them the power to demean, disrespect or dishonour a person on the basis of how they draft their review, rant, complain or query. These groups provide a greater avenue for foodies, critiques and silent readers who secretly build their opinion based on the reviews shared online.

How would you react if provoked for having used a skill that hadn’t been mastered by many around you?

The Twisted Tale of Viral Social Media Debate

It doesn’t take much for an innocent post to turn into an online dilemma, a heated topic and viral content later on that ends up on almost all the local media publishing pages. So what is it that makes a post questionable? What are some of the most debated, and #hottopics that may help you get some easy overnight fame on a Facebook group, maybe.. Consider the example below that shows how something completely ‘I would call it’ stupid, catches the attention of the ‘group-nazis’ and then the ripple keeps on getting wider and deeper.

image

A supposedly ‘expert’ marketer found it highly ‘stupid’ and somewhat ‘offensive’ (on pure marketing merit) to have received a promotional SMS for a sanitary napkins campaign. What happens next? Well, the gentleman puts up a screenshot with a caption that just reads, ‘what the heck?’. Now the term WTH is pretty broad when it comes to trying to decipher the emotions enclosed. This is where it got attention from all the different angles available in any mixed gender, intellectual group!

a. The actually confused audience asking for clarification because duh, they can’t see the obvious

answer1

b. The most common but the most important ‘feminist’ perspective

feminist2.PNGfeminist1.PNG

c. A pinch of something sane that apparently fails to grab much attention

good1.PNGgood2.PNGgood3.PNG

d. The ‘popcorn’ worthy pro vs. anti-feminism, cat fight

catfight.PNG

e. Then there are the ones who have a very good time adding their irrelevant 2 cents to the thread
irrelevant1.PNGlame1.PNGlame2.PNG

f. Some ‘on-point’ sarcasm or trolling, as we call it.

lame3.PNG

g. And last but not the least trying to save your sinking ship with an irrelevant Federal Public Notice!

headsup.PNG

This is just one, petty example of how something very naive grabs the attention of the masses just because people mostly refer to the thread underneath while completely ignoring the question, topic, idea, referred to, with the post. Nazis, feminists, realists, haters, trolls have an equal share towards the agenda. Where, media publishing agencies are always bloodthirsty about content that creates more controversy than there already was, threads like these with added screenshots spread across different WhatsApp and social media groups; ladies and gentlemen, give you a viral ‘useless’ story!